Thank you, Anon, for sending me such a lovely message. It makes me so happy to know you are enjoying the recaps and I am truly flattered by your kind words.
Thank you for taking the time to make my day.
I don’t know if some of you have been to these live reads at LACMA, where a classic film is read live on stage by actors who just sit and read the script. We did one recently of American Pie, but we reversed the gender roles. All the women played men; all the men played women. And it was so fascinating to be a part of this because, as the women took on these central roles — they had all the good lines, they had all the good laughs, all the great moments — the men who joined us to sit on stage started squirming rather uncomfortably and got really bored because they weren’t used to being the supporting cast.
It was fascinating to feel their discomfort [and] to discuss it with them afterward, when they said, “It’s boring to play the girl role!” And I said, “Yeah. Yeah. You think? Welcome to our world!
I think the problem with Brandon — or, well, the reason there is so much frustration about him re: #GaydyBunch — is that his story is juxtaposed to: a) An interracial lesbian couple who has fought against Prop. 8 to be legally married; b) a transgender teenager whose family has ostracized him and so he chooses to risk his life rather than be confined to a body that doesn’t match his gender identity; and c) a gender atypical tween who just wants a safe place to call home. He also seems completely unable to understand that no means no, which of course taps into that cultural discussion we’re having right now about rape culture. Brandon seems like a pretty good dude, but his brand of straight white male entitlement/myopia always has the potential to be off-putting, and to a group of queer women who have fought so hard and so long for just basic civil rights, it is bamboozling and infuriating in the extreme.
Or, as my favorite Fosters recapper, Lucy Hallowell, said to me in an email a few minutes ago:
Previously on The Fosters:Callie told Brandon she would be homeless if they got together and he tried to get in her pants.Callie told Brandon to back off and he tried to get in her pants.Jude told Brandon to back off and he tried to get in Callie’s pants.Brandon’s moms got married and Brandon tried to get in Callie’s pantsBrandon’s grandfather died and he tried to get in Callie’s pants.Callie told Brandon they were done and he was like “oh I get it now that you’ll be homeless and family-less if I don’t back off, aren’t I super sensitive?”Sure, he’s 16, but his brain isn’t literally his penis.